We all remember the autonomy that came with being asked "what do you want to do when you're older?" but that question comes with the same checklist as everyone else. Build a career that makes you valuable. Earn enough to recover from the hours that career costs you. Collect the certificates that open the next door.
The questions that make your work yours just never made it onto the list. What you actually care about. Who you want to be while you are doing the work. What a good week looks like, rather than a survivable one. Those questions get a crisis a year instead of a plan.
Life design is not new. Work just got the version where someone else filled in the checklist for you. Ask "what means enough to me to work every day to solve it?" and most of the list gets covered up or stops mattering anyway.